Meeting Richard O’Barry on Tuesday at the Grand Copthorne Waterfront Hotel was amazing.
As a friend put it, “You seem star struck.”
And how could I not be?
I’ve watched the Cove – that marvelous award-winning documentary. (If you haven’t done so, you should too. Click here to watch Part 1. You can work your way through Part 10 from the links there.)
And anyone who has been reading the newspaper these last few days would have heard of Ric’s achievements, his support for ACRES campaign against Resorts World Sentosa (RWS)’s plans to house 25 bottlenose dolphins, as well as the many labels tagged to him:
Ric O’Barry – activist
Ric O’Barry – former Flipper trainer
Ric O’Barry – dolphin hero
How do you not get awed by that?
But I’m pretty sure, most of you would never have heard of this one:
Ric O’Barry – father to a 6 year old girl
While people were enraptured with the grand labels of status, it was this different and unexpected side of Ric, that I saw at the event, which left me deep in thought questioning his other motivations behind his campaigning against dolphin slaughter, dolphin captivity and dolphinariums.
He was not just a four-decade-old activist. He was a dad; a role model to his daughter, and he was trying his best to teach her proper values in life.
For a moment, he seemed more human that way.
He was teaching a child to have a heart in a world devoid of one.
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Kids learn from mimicking behaviour. None more than from their parents.
While we try to be good parents to our children by buying them the latest prams and expensive toys, providing them with the best education and medical care, and by clothing them in OshKosh B’Gosh-priced kiddy clothes, our children are busy observing us and learning how to interact with the world around them.
While we try to be good parents to our children by buying them the latest prams and expensive toys, providing them with the best education and medical care, and by clothing them in OshKosh B’Gosh-priced kiddy clothes, our children are busy observing us and learning how to interact with the world around them.
They pick up what we say, how we say it, and what we do - our actions, our mannerisms, our habits. Their sponge-like brain is program to do just that at their infant and toddler stage. Absorb. Everything.
If you're a parent of two, you might remember the older sibling "spanking" the younger for misbehaving in imitation of how you had disciplined him or her before.
Teaching a child to be polite and considerate to their elders, will have little value if we are rude or disrespectful in turn.
We are role models to them. Therefore, we should not just preach values to them, but live it. Lead by example, as they say.
Values make up a person's character. They determine temperament, faith, and attitude - the core of an individual. And cores are hard to change.
This is also how their values are formed.
We are role models to them. Therefore, we should not just preach values to them, but live it. Lead by example, as they say.
Values make up a person's character. They determine temperament, faith, and attitude - the core of an individual. And cores are hard to change.
So you see why it’s essential to inculcate good values while your child is still young.
Ric O'Barry, too, recognizes that "we're living in a time where we need to teach our children well."
But by patronizing dolphin shows at places like RWS, Ric questions, "What are we teaching our children?"
Dolphin shows are nothing but "spectacles of dominance." It teaches that "dominance is good; dominance is right." This is not a good value to instill in our child.
Instead, here are 4 life-values Ric O’Barry would love your children to learn from you. I will let the man speak for himself where he has supplied the words with minimal comments.
Enjoy!
1) Control Your Desires
A journalist asked Ric O'Barry this question: If dolphins weren't here, all of these kids...would never get to see dolphins.
This was his reply, "That's true. And the reality is, you can't always get what we want...The very same children are never going to see a snow leopard. Does this mean we have to go to the Himalayas and drag a snow leopard into the room for them? Or do we teach our children to control their desires? I think that's the most important thing in saving this planet - controlling our desires. That's the key to it.”
This was his reply, "That's true. And the reality is, you can't always get what we want...The very same children are never going to see a snow leopard. Does this mean we have to go to the Himalayas and drag a snow leopard into the room for them? Or do we teach our children to control their desires? I think that's the most important thing in saving this planet - controlling our desires. That's the key to it.”
Couldn't have said it better. Bravo!
2) Individuals Can Make a Difference
“There are a lot of children who want [the release of the dolphins] to happen. And I'm rooting for them. I'm really doing this for them because I know about the environmental problem facing us and the children are the only hope.
So if these children have a win, if they win this campaign and the dolphins go back, that will encourage them to take on bigger issues.
We won! Look what we did. Now lets do something else.
But if we lose, they're just gonna walk away and think, you can't win. These big multi-international companies...there's nothing you can do about it. And they're going to give up. So it's about that for me. I wanna see these kids win."
So if these children have a win, if they win this campaign and the dolphins go back, that will encourage them to take on bigger issues.
We won! Look what we did. Now lets do something else.
But if we lose, they're just gonna walk away and think, you can't win. These big multi-international companies...there's nothing you can do about it. And they're going to give up. So it's about that for me. I wanna see these kids win."
3) It’s OK to Make Mistakes. Learn From It and Correct It.
"The decision makers at Resorts World have children. They teach their children to speak the truth. and when you make a mistake, stand up and say I made a mistake. You know, accidents happen and that's alright.
Resorts World made a mistake capturing dolphins from the wild. And they can fix it...It's not too late to fix it."
4) Respect for Life
Reading the last paragraph from a book he wrote, entitled Behind the Dolphin Smile, sums up his view.
"In a world where so much that is wild and free has already been lost to us we must leave these beautiful mammals free to swim as they will and must. They do us no harm and wish us none, and we should let them alone."
Amen to that.
In conclusion, the key to being a good parent is to be a good role model ourselves.
Remember, in the words of Ric O'Barry:
"Our children are watching us all the time."
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For those interested in watching highlights of the actual event, click here for Part 1, courtesy of Razor TV, SPH. You can work your way to Part 9 from the links there.
For those interested in watching highlights of the actual event, click here for Part 1, courtesy of Razor TV, SPH. You can work your way to Part 9 from the links there.
Thanks again for reading!
Stay Green!
Cheers,
~Kerry